1-If you have a relationship that has some sour grape to it, there are only three ways to make it better. To put it simply there are only three possible solutions for people problems.

2-That should catch your attention. Because it covers quite a chunk of life, that makes you have red eyeballs worries and frustrations cause by your kids, marrage, boss, neighbors, roommate, nosy acquaintances, and the bullies that shove in front of you at the check out stand.

3-Here are the three choices: 1 Change the situation 2 Change the person 3 Change yourself.

4-Let’s consider each one, let’s start with the first. Change the situation. If you don’t like the boss, quit your job. If your spouse cause hurricanes of rage in your mind instead of making harps play in your heart, then get rid of him or her. If getting along with your teacher is like clawing through a jungle of barbed wire, then drop out of school. Or if Mom and Pop are always on your back, then hit the streets. Run away from home. That is to say that if the association with another person has bad overtones, break out, split, disappear. That could be the best solution in some cases. Perhaps. But there are much deeper things to consider. Such as, what are the consequences? What are you doing to yourself?

5-I had just finished lunch with Trygbe Wage, great name I know. Tryg is the director of Raise up The Bar a therapeutic center for rehabing felons. They come over to Tryg’s place with an average of ten arrests and eleven long months spent in juvenile correctional institutions. All these kids know how to do, when they have a bad human encounter is to act crazy and run away, Tryg told me. After they’re with us awhile, they realize how dumb that is. Running away doesn’t work.

6-Another time a friend of mine was talking about his divorce. We found that marriage was different than going together. Little things would become big things. We got good at making each other miserable. Every day was becoming a drag. So we broke up. It was not easy but we did it. I thought life would be all rosy after that.There would be no more tears and hassles. Life would be a lark! Ah, sweet freedom!

7-But it wasn’t quite that way. What I thought would be freedom was prolonged remorse. I couldn’t get rid of the feelings of guilt and shame and a sense of failure. I know that those were a separate set of problems, that should’ve been dealt with differently. But there was a feeling chewing away inside telling me that happiness is not built by messing up a persons life.

8-Do I still hold myself responsible? Of course not. I’ve put it behind me now. But I learned that solving bad scenes with other people doesn’t always mean breaking it off. For me it did not do much for the real problem.The real problem was me. I took that right along with me. Maybe the result would be the same today. I’m no sure. I’d deal with it a lot differently.

9-A woman once told mehow she would skip from job to job trying to find the right situation.People got to me, she said. Criticism, complaints, moaning, groaning, it seemed that’s all I heard all day. I just couldn’t get it off my mind at night. So I kept moving, only to find out the names and faces changed, but not the humans. Most of the old frustrations would come up yet again just dressed in different cloths. So it dawned on me one day that the problem was me, not them. I’m doing something about that now. I think I’m going to make it.

10-Does this mean that a divorce or change of jobs should be automatically ruled out as a way out of unhappy attachments? No, you have to decide what’s best for you. All you’re getting here are some insights and ideas to use for guidelines. Running away might be the easy answer, but not always the best. If you’ve got a marriage, job, or friendship that has some good parts to it, then consider another option for smoothing out the rough spots.

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